ps I have had 8 vendors privately support me and 2 publicly post against me. --
And there are many that just don't want to get involved. I am not really a vendor but I do not agree with your post either. So what does that make it 8, 2 and 1. Your post seemed to be written as a frustrated person that was upset. The post came across damning most vendors on the list without naming them. You basically said watch out for everyone here even if they have been nice.If you were trying to get leverage with your vendor, you have won few (8) supporters here. Most of us would like to see this list for helping people use their Cobalt products. Your post does not help that. It blasts someone whom you privately contracted to do private work for you. Hopefully you at least have a Cobalt product. You blasted the person without giving facts other than you weren't happy. At least the vendor has not blasted you for being unreasonable and inflexible so say the least.
Why not work with your BBB and if you have a problem in the end then tell us the facts. By the way, there are a few lawyers that post here on the list too. Maybe they can give you a few pointers. Like libel.